The desire to assess the effectiveness of [Open Space] is surely justified and rational. That said, I’ve never really understood what would be gained. In my experience (the only point of reference I haveJ) – the “ OS results” are typically so far off the charts as to be “unbelievable.” To give an example, when my friends from AT&T designed their Olympic Pavilion in 1996 we had a very nice comparative measure. The same people had to design the building twice. The first time, using “standard procedures” took 10 months. The second time around, using OS – it was all done in 2 days. And all the designers, and everybody else I talked to agreed that the second effort was a major improvement aesthetically and structurally. Using the common criteria of “Increased Productivity,” we are looking at something like a 15,000% increase. The AT&T exec in “charge” called it magic – a fulsome client assessment. Now armed with this “data”, what do you think would happen were you to walk into the office of a potential new client and say, “How would you like some magic? An increase of productivity by 15,000%?
Harrison Owen, creator of Open Space Technology (my own experience, having a meeting organizer watch the agenda form: “It took me six weeks to create the schedule for the last event. You just did it in 15 minutes.” Except, of course, I didn’t. The group did.)
We think of it as a sort of traffic accident of the heart. It is an emotion that scares us more than cruelty, more than violence, more than hatred. We allow ourselves to be foiled by the vagueness of the word. After all, love requires the utmost vulnerability. We equip someone with freshly sharpened knives; strip naked; then invite him to stand close. What could be scarier?
Diane Ackerman (via BrainPickings)
When two consenting adults who care for one another more than anything in the world commence to peeing on each other and whatever further acts of sexual depravity they can imagine, they can do so without risk of eroding the integrity of their relationship because when you respect someone, and you pee on them - THAT’S LOVE!
Process is about letting yourself be open to that which presents itself. You can force a process or you can listen to a process…sometimes I think listening to a process will allow you to come up with an engagement or a connection that actually feeds you and your partner more because it’s more genuine.
@ControlEnthused speaking on “Rope Bondage: Process vs. Product” for @kinkacademy
The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them